Is your partner taking too long in getting back to your chat or text?
It can be tough waiting for a response from your loved one after you have sent them an important message.
But what if you wait too long and they don’t respond at all? Should you do the same and let your partner feel what you have felt?
Well, let’s take a look at some of the facts first:
Why your partner might be taking a long time to respond
If you’re waiting for a response from your partner and they’re taking a long time, it’s natural to start wondering what’s going on.
This is how you probably look right now:
You might even start to feel like you should do the same thing. But before you decide to make them wait for as long as they have, there are a few things to consider:
Could your partner be busy or doing something at the moment?
There’s a good chance that your partner is busy and just hasn’t had a chance to respond yet. If you’re not sure, it might be worth giving them a call or sending them a text to see what’s going on.
Another possibility is that they might be doing something else and can’t take the time to respond right now. In this case, it might be better to give them some space and come back later.
Could your partner be taking the time to write a thoughtful reply?
Sometimes, people might take a long time to respond because they want to make sure their reply is thoughtful and considerate.
If your partner is usually pretty responsive but has been taking a while today, it’s possible that he or she is just taking the time to create the perfect response.
Reasons why you should reply right away
Well then, let’s start with the reasons why you shouldn’t want to make your partner wait after he or she has sent the reply:
1. Consider the reasons why it took your partner so long to reply
Before you do anything rash, you might want to consider the reasons why it took your partner so long to reply.
Maybe he or she was busy with work or other commitments and couldn’t get to the message right away. Maybe there was a technical issue that caused the delay.
In any case, it’s important to give your partner the benefit of the doubt before you start making assumptions about why he or she didn’t reply sooner.
2. Treat your partner how you want to be treated
Feels a little bit unfair, right? But once again, you might be jumping to conclusions here and it’s possible that your partner didn’t mean to make you wait.
When you’re not sure, always remember the golden rule:
Treat your partner how you want to be treated. If you wouldn’t want to be kept waiting (intentionally), then don’t keep your partner waiting.
Reasons why you shouldn’t reply right away
On the other hand, if you have some evidence and you’re quite sure that your partner is not replying to you on purpose:
3. Then make your partner feel how it felt like
Chances are — you’re probably here for this. This is where the saying about tasting someone’s own medicine comes in.
If you feel like your partner is purposely ignoring you or taking hours to reply, you can make them feel how it felt like.
It’s not the most mature way to handle the situation, but it will give you a sense of satisfaction. More importantly, it might actually get your partner to start replying to you in a timely manner.
But of course, don’t go overboard. At the very least, make sure that your partner knows that you’re not happy with the way he or she has been treating you.
4. Because you’re a busy person
Unless your only work is to wait for your partner to reply back to you, chances are you’re a busy person — and that’s perfectly fine.
We all have our own lives and we should be busy with the things that matter to us and not being held hostage to how our partner treats us.
Worse case, not replying as fast as your partner used to is a derivative of one of the signs that your partner may not be interested in you anymore.
So slowly adjusting yourself and getting busy on the things that matter might be a good practice in case you or your partner decides to break up.
Frequently asked questions and their answers
Here are common questions that people ask when their partner takes hours to reply:
What does it mean if my partner takes too long to reply?
There are a lot of possible reasons here. Your partner might be too busy with something else or thinking of how to reply properly. On the negative side, your partner might not be interested in the conversation (or in you) anymore.
What to do when my partner takes too long to reply?
If you feel like your partner is taking too long to reply, there are a few things you can do. Try to be patient and give them some time to respond.
If they don’t respond after a day or two, send them a message asking if they’re okay and if they need any help. If your partner still doesn’t respond, you may want to consider talking to them about your concerns.
How to tell my partner that I didn’t like waiting too long for a reply?
The best way to handle the situation is to be upfront and honest.
Let your partner know that you didn’t enjoy waiting too long for a reply and explain why. This will help them understand how you feel and make sure that they don’t do it again in the future.
To be fair, handling this issue primarily depends on what took your partner too long to reply. If it was something reasonable, you may want to cut him or her some slack.
Did you have any experience with this? If so, please share your story below and help everyone out there who is probably overthinking right now.
